Natural Wonders

This is only slightly gratuitous and vain self promotion. *chuckle*. Actually, this is because I am so disgusted with the misrepresentation of large boobs as being perky, stand up and firmly positioned resulting from the obscene wave of implants everywhere...

I actually had a man argue with me about some Polish chick in a photo who was a 36dd claiming to be natural... uhh, yah... cause all large breasts look like perfectly shaped, firm basketballs ... sheesh. Hey dumbass, spend alot of time dating chicks on the track team while you were growing up because you obviously didn't get near anything larger than a B cup if you thought HERS were real.

So, I give you these. Completely natural 36dd. THIS is what large and natural breasts look like. Remember them as they seem to have made the transition from rare species to endangered species.

Two of my favorite things.

Calvin and Hobbes and..... bondage?

Saints, Sinners and Everything Between

This was an interesting thread on a forum only because the man who made the following statement was then treated to numerous (!!!) replies intended to force him to look at the venomous judgement and hatred he was displaying by his position. He, of course, stood even more defiantly in his stand. It made me think though... and, of course, I responded with my own thoughts which were intended to be less about him and more about a phenomenon that is not so uncommon. Here is the original post and my reply.

Enjoy~

PS - Your comments are also welcome.


"If I knew that a domme was also a whore I would not be able to submit to her. Thats just the way it is for me. I have to be able to respect her to be able to submit. Simple as that. "


Interesting how this thread so quickly got sidetracked.

There are many folks who draw a hard line between escorts and dommes... usually it is the domme that makes that distinction clear. I am fascinated by Veritas position and would like to know more but I daresay, getting stream of consciousness information out of him now will never happen here.

With that said, I am not a saint. It took me more than a few moments to calm down so that I did not jump on the bandwagon and beat down Veritas for such a damning use of the word "whore" when referencing escorts. Say what you will about anyone's choices but in many ways, I have more respect for escorts than the usual trademark hypocrites I see running around with their little (insert designer name) bags and smug opinions of themselves. When it comes to selling your body for an easier life than the one you are living, I think we should be less hard on the ones that sell only their body and harder on the ones who sell all manner of romantic and emotional lies for their seat at the table of privilege. Say what you will, whores don't lie and that gets my respect.

Perhaps this is what disturbs Veritas so much, above and beyond the moral affront that everyone usually hides behind. For men who liberally use the word "whore" in this manner (Veritas may well be the exception so I will not direct this at him) - many of them have a level of sexual dysfunction and emotional rage at women that is frightening. Prostitutes make no pretense about what is being sold and what is not. Perhaps the "whore with the whip" is too painful a reminder that the woman you are looking for doesn't exist because the real love of your life that you are seeking is in practice, you.

I could be wrong but if I am not mistaken, starting with women from early life, these men see women as untrustworthy, emotionally unavailable and sexually carnivorous... the "gaping wound" of womanhood is seen as an abyss that sucks the souls, will or power out of men... (rapists and serial killers usually have the same opinions and are only differentiated by a tremendous amount of psychological and sociological pathology and early childhood abuse/trauma to boot)... so, if this is the case - is it any surprise that someone like this would be drawn to a Domme?

The domme plays out the overpowering, emotionally unavailable, selfish female authority figure who torments the man for his sexual weakness and vulnerability to her. She, in essence, punishes him for being weak in the presence of her overpowering sexual presence - and he, being weak and cowardly - cannot even bring himself to face the rage that burns within him. The fact is that he uses her to express his secret rage. The more sadistic she is, the more he is sated because it is not her rage that he is feeling but his own and in this way, he can both experience his rage and be punished for it, all at the same time.

But with a prostitute... he would be faced with a woman who accepts him as a man and does not treat him like a weak puppet who should receive only rage and abuse. She will not give him the proxy display of hatred that he seeks to experience through her. She dares give him a moment to experience intimacy but it is seen as mockery and a statement of his own pathetic handicaps because he had to pay for her acceptance. And, for some men, paying for her rage is more acceptable - and in many deeply disturbing ways - more desirable.

To ask such a man to show respect for all women and not to grasp at social displays of power by using strong moral judgement as a lance and flag is cruel and unreasonable. He is who he is and he chooses BDSM instead of therapy. And in our world, he is not so unusual so why would he ever need to think anything is wrong?

This is not to say that all men in the scene have this psychological profile. For those who are seeking balance not denial within themselves, power exchange is a beautiful, catharctic experience and is part of their sexuality; not an isolated, frozen splinter of it that should never be returned to its origin.

BDSM is not about sex like affection is not about love.

Post Scripte:

Before I forget. A couple points.

1) This psychological profile is also seen in vanilla society... everywhere which is why I am so familiar with it. Howard Stern is a living example of what I describe.

2) Knowing what drives someone Freudian train does not qualify one to tinker with the parts. I would be very careful using this as a blueprint for "domming". It's one thing to posture and play a part... quite another to start pushing deep, psychological buttons. The mess you end up with may well prove to be your own undoing more than your subs.

3) And P.S. - it works both ways. You have a psych profile as well that drives you to being a domme and it isn't just about the money - as many of you are quick to point out that this IS a lifestyle for you not an occupation - and the mirror image of the Domme is no more attractive when the guts are laid out on the table in all their dysfunctional display.

4) No one is 100% healthy in an unhealthy world. The only thing that saves us from recrimination is the responsibility we take both for ourselves and our impact on other people. I may not be above reproach but I am willing to own my mistakes and perhaps that is what makes all the difference in the world when everything is tallied at the end.

10 things I hate about you.

I am copying and pasting a post and my reply from a forum because it is representative of what I see more and more of in BDSM. You really can't hate this guy when you realize that he is one of a majority when it comes to his statements. Many folks offer the same, party line arguments these days.... and it is exactly because of THIS mentality as you will see below that I am going to retire myself from the scene shortly. I am developing a deep and sincere loathing for my comrades in kink... I suspect mostly because I have such a hostile disdain for things like stupidity and gross irresponsibility with power.

Enjoy the post - it is a thread started on the subject about 3 men who performed a dungeon castration and are now facing criminal charges for it. It is eye opening if you remember that the poster is not a minority but a majority in his opinions and position.

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His Original Post:

In reply to:

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It seems to me they got in trouble NOT for castrating the consenting men, but for practicing/performing a medical procedure without a license and (more specifically) for performing a castration without being licensed as a medical professional.

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Actually, *****, these men are in trouble for BOTH these reasons and NOT either one or the other of them.

This sissy is very surprised that a lot more kinksters are not closely following this case as it would appear to go right to the core of challenging what we all mean and understand by the BDSM "safe, sane and consensual" (SSC) code of conduct. You have already brought up two of the three basic tenets of BDSM practice, but the issue of what is considered sane also applies very much in this case, too, so let's consider each of these BDSM axioms in turn ...

CONSENSUAL: Most practicing kinksters - and this particular tenet is really only applicable to the Sadist / Dominant / Top (SDT) - hold firmly to the belief that what They do is at least morally and ethically OK as long as the masochist / submissive / bottom (msb) on the receiving end willingly and fully consents to what is being done. It is fully recognized by most kinksters that in many instances the law of the land actually contradicts this moral and ethical rightness of the SDT in certain fields of play, and instead declares many activities and proclivities craved by msbs from SDTs to be illegal. It denies the right of msbs the freedom to volunteer in the cases of those certain fields of play, and declares instead that they are always victims whether they like it or not, and conversely that the SDTs are always criminals even though They are usually only giving or doing to the msb exactly what the msb craved - and had possibly even begged for.

Consensual castration in North Carolina clearly falls into this category. Even though some of the so-called victims in this case voluntarily flew in from other countries (or at least from out of state) to get their heart's desire satisfied, the state stubbornly refuses to accept the reality of that fact and insists that they are victims whether they like it or not, and that they were violated by Master Rick (and the other men charged in this case) even though what they did was exactly what the victims desired.

SAFE: Most practicing kinksters also hold firmly to the belief that what they do is OK only if it is pursued and indulged in SAFELY. Even proponents of the same kinky or perverted activity will divide out within the BDSM community over issues of SAFETY. You can take two Domina that both practice the art of suspension, for instance, and who are otherwise totally aligned in their interests and passions for that kink, but if one of them left Her submissive suspended unattended in a room for 2 hours (while She talked on the phone, for example) you may well find the other Domina to be more rabidly vocal (than even the vanilla general public) in condemning the first Domina because, in the latter's opinion, She violated the basic SAFE tenet of the SSC code of conduct. The BDSM community can frequently become very passionately divided over straightforward safety issues for activities that vanilla folk don't even understand what the friggin' debate is even about, because for the general public the activity is simply wrong no mater how safely or unsafely it is conducted.

Once again, the North Carolina case also goes to the heart of this issue both morally and legally. The state claims that what these men did was illegal because they performed medical procedures without the appropriate medical qualifications to do so. But many will cogently argue that 99% of practicing medical doctors wouldn't know how to perform a human castration anyway - there is hardly any demand for them so they don't spend anytime studying them in their 8+ years of medical training. Furthermore, there are many ranchers or farmers that wouldn't have an ice cube in Hell's chance of ever becoming licensed MDs that regularly perform castrations on livestock that probably could have done these human castration procedures too. So for the state of NC to prosecute these men for illegally performing medical procedures that they would have been no better qualified to perform had they been licensed MDs anyway, and which any rancher with little or no medical training could also perform successfully, is somewhat of a legal technicality and a little bit of a red herring in this case.

But because of that legal technicality you are also going to find the BDSM community become very divided on this issue. Some will use the arbitrary illegality of these castrations to simply jump to the conclusion that what occurred here obviously violated the SAFE tenet of the SSC code. Others will actually take the time and effort to examine how these procedures were actually performed, and if they were performed with sufficient care and sanitary safety for the circumstances involved, they will come to the conclusion that the SAFE tenet of the SSC code was NOT violated, and that this was indeed valid and morally correct BDSM play, no matter how arbitrarily the illegality of the act may be viewed by the vanilla and law enforcement world.

SANE: Most practicing kinksters also hold firmly to the belief that what they do is OK only if it is pursued and indulged in by SANE parties. This third tenet of SANITY is inextricably linked to both of the two previous tenets. The litmus test for CONSENSUALITY is totally meaningless if one of the parties giving their consent is emotionally or mentally incapable of making that decision in a rational manner, or is incapable of understanding the SAFETY issues involved WRT the activity under consideration. So to some extent, the issue of SANITY precedes both of the other two tenets ... if either party is considered to be mentally unstable then the issue of whether what they are doing is being conducted SAFELY and with mutual CONSENT becomes somewhat moot.

There is inherent in almost any vanilla person's belief that a BDSM activity is just darn plain wrong a justification in their own mind that they feel that way because only a crazy person would want to treat, or be treated by, others in that manner. They believe all kinksters are perverted and should be legally prevented from pursuing their various kinks mostly because what the kinksters want to do is total anathema to them, and something that the vanilla people themselves simply cannot relate to ... because if they actually did understand, and related to the lure of the power dynamics involved, they wouldn't be vanilla! These vanilla types feel this way about simple bondage and spankings let alone the more societal taboo-shattering kinks such as scat and crossdressing. But what is really distasteful - but an unfortunate reality of this lifestyle - is that the BDSM community is full of self-righteous hypocrites that love to lob boulders around the greenhouse.

You are going to find quite a lot of actual so-called perverts and lifestyle kinksters immediately condemning what went on in North Carolina as NOT being "real" BDSM - and furthermore, that it gets "real" BDSM a very bad name - because only someone who is a real sicko would want to be castrated in the first place. "Real" perverts only want to be trampled on, or to be flogged, but someone that wants to be castrated (or even to castrate another) is a total psycho that needs to be quickly expunged from the community (and legally left out to dry) before he is allowed to bring to "real" BDSM any more of mainstream society's disapproval and rejection than already exists. IsHO, you really have to laugh at these PC hypocrites that walk amongst us in the same way that you had to laugh at those folk that called for Bill Maher's head because he had the audacity to make a PI statement on a show called Politically Incorrect.

So the question that should really be asked in this particular case, *****, is: "In the opinion of people in the BDSM community who actually know what they are talking about, was the SSC code violated by the activities conducted in North Carolina that have got these men into trouble?" If not, these men are innocent IsHO, and should go free. If any tenet of the BDSM SSC code was violated then these men are morally culpable of a crime, and if it takes an arbitrary legal violation to jail them, then that's OK by this sissy. But if they are morally innocent yet go to jail for such an arbitrary legal violation as the one you cited, then that will be a travesty of justice on a similar order of magnitude as Lorena Bobbitt going scot free for what she did.

********My Reply*********

This was a compelling post that works the very heart of fear, isolation and elitist victimhood that seems to be rampant in the current BDSM community and I can't take it. Here are some things that do need to be said:

• "CONSENSUAL: Most practicing kinksters ... It denies the right of msbs the freedom to volunteer in the cases of those certain fields of play, and declares instead that they are always victims whether they like it or not, and conversely that the SDTs are always criminals even though They are usually only giving or doing to the msb exactly what the msb craved - and had possibly even begged for. "

With great power, comes great responsibility, boys and girls.

Top/Dom/Master/Mistress/Keyholder/What-Have-You assumes a great responsibility with the acceptance of this role. YOU become responsible for your charge and YOU decide what is and isn't acceptable in their requests of you... what they want is only half of the equation. What you are willing to do is the other half. To hide behind the rationalization that you only gave them what they asked for is to assume the same justification that child molesters, serial killers and other predatory abusers use.... "They asked for it. Its what they wanted."

If your slave begs you to literally drive a knife through their heart as part of a vampire scene.... would you do it because it is what they wanted?

Of course not. Why? Because it would kill them and above all else, we don't want to see ourselves going to jail for murder... but somehow anything short of murder is considered justifiable because "it is what they asked for"... ?

• " SAFE: ....Even proponents of the same kinky or perverted activity will divide out within the BDSM community over issues of SAFETY. "

This has resulted because, God forgive me for saying this, too many of the folks in this community who put their partners in positions of jeopardy in high risk play and activity are MORONS and shouldn't be trusted with the safe care and keeping of a cat much less another human being. Alcohol enemas, anyone? Scrotal inflation? Oh hell... why don't we do alcohol injections with a syringe next.... medical training? We don't need no medical training. It's only a scene after all and it is what they wanted....

".... You can take two Domina that both practice the art of suspension, for instance, and who are otherwise totally aligned in their interests and passions for that kink, but if one of them left Her submissive suspended unattended in a room for 2 hours (while She talked on the phone, for example) ....."

Case in point. And if you can't see what is wrong with this scenario, you should stay away from bondage altogether because you, also, are ignorant of the ramifications and considerations of the activity in question and will end up hurting someone... unfortunately, not yourself.

" The state claims that what these men did was illegal because they performed medical procedures without the appropriate medical qualifications to do so. "

Ummm. Yes... Am I NOT supposed to see a problem with this because I am into BDSM?

"... But many will cogently argue that 99% of practicing medical doctors wouldn't know how to perform a human castration anyway - there is hardly any demand for them so they don't spend anytime studying them in their 8+ years of medical training.... "

And for as God-like as we like to joke about doctors envisioning themselves, the fact of the matter is that they wouldn't be STUPID enough to attempt something they weren't trained to do unless it were a life or death situation with NO other alternatives.

"...Furthermore, there are many ranchers or farmers that wouldn't have an ice cube in Hell's chance of ever becoming licensed MDs that regularly perform castrations on livestock that probably could have done these human castration procedures too...."

The difference is that we eat livestock and we do NOT eat people. When this changes, I am sure the rules about who gets castrated under what circumstances will change too.

"...So for the state of NC to prosecute these men for illegally performing medical procedures that they would have been no better qualified to perform had they been licensed MDs anyway, and which any rancher with little or no medical training could also perform successfully, is somewhat of a legal technicality and a little bit of a red herring in this case...."

Wow. And for no one to understand that the Jews are responsible for the downfall of the 1930's German economy is ridiculous since it is so obvious that blonde hair/blue eyed caucasians are the master race of humanity and that everything on the other end of the spectrum, namely Jews and Blacks, are like lodestones around the necks of whites everywhere...note: this is not my position but a point I am trying to make and that is: With enough loosely associated facts, we can rationalize anything as is obvious by the rise in power based on Hitler's irrational but effective propoganda.

"....Others will actually take the time and effort to examine how these procedures were actually performed, and if they were performed with sufficient care and sanitary safety for the circumstances involved...."

WTF? THIS WAS SURGERY NOT CBT!!!!!

"SANE: ... if either party is considered to be mentally unstable then the issue of whether what they are doing is being conducted SAFELY and with mutual CONSENT becomes somewhat moot."

Okay. And who performed the psychiatric evaluation before these guys were allowed to move forward with having their balls lopped off by a complete stranger without a medical license in a grubby basement?

"... because only a crazy person would want to treat, or be treated by, others in that manner... because if they actually did understand, and related to the lure of the power dynamics involved, they wouldn't be vanilla!..."

Not true. They are no less subject to the seduction of power and practice power games in other ways. It is possible to enjoy sex without the games, you know. ...And yes, we ARE perverts. Stop playing social victim, accept your abberhence and get off the soapbox before it collapses under you. If the vanilla folks understood what we were doing and approved of it, we wouldn't be kinky anymore. We would be... ::cough:: ... normal.

"... is that the BDSM community is full of self-righteous hypocrites that love to lob boulders around the greenhouse...."

Are we "lobbing boulders" or simply disagreeing with a stronger or more rational argument? Even in tolerance, there have to be limits to what is acceptable or we are operating solely with ignorance and/or apathy.

"... because only someone who is a real sicko would want to be castrated in the first place....."

From a more clinical position, the fact is that elective removal of any part of ourselves means that we don't like it and we don't want it. This is understandable when it is something cosmetic and harmless to remove .... excess fat, a sixth finger, a wart, a third nipple.... but when we remove vital organs... (and wow, contrary to popular belief or personal opinion.. the testicles ARE vital in their function above and beyond making sperm)... then we are getting into a level of body dysphoria that demands counseling not casual acceptance as a "kink". In this light, "sane" becomes questionable and without appropriate psych evaluation does not satisfy the SSC requirement.

"Real" perverts only want to be trampled on, or to be flogged, but someone that wants to be castrated (or even to castrate another) is a total psycho that needs to be quickly expunged from the community (and legally left out to dry) before he is allowed to bring to "real" BDSM any more of mainstream society's disapproval and rejection than already exists. "

Funny, I didn't realize we had a Kinsey Scale of Kink going on with Real and Psycho as the two end markers of the spectrum.... You have now moved from SSC to personal validation or invalidation regardless of SSC tenets with this statement. Although I can see how someone could feel this way, it is both unfair and inaccurate a statement. When it comes to causing permanent and possibly fatal damage, I choose not to be involved or associate with people who take a cavalier and completely ignorant position on it. Does this make me a hypocrite? I don't think so. A hypocrite says one thing and does another. I disapprove of activities that are so high risk that they could kill people with very little effort... and you can rest assured that I avoid those activities at all costs while I am railing against them.

If we can't recognize the difference between playing with power and misusing power, then we have no business handling it at all.

You want to dress up like a little boy and call me daddy while I fuck you in the ass? ... we can do that. You want to go chase little boys and have them call you daddy while you fuck them in the ass... that's a 911 call if I catch you doing it. And don't give me this crap about it is what they wanted.... YOU should have known better because then, YOU were the one in the position of power...

With great power comes great responsibility... even when we are only playing power games.

"So the question that should really be asked in this particular case, *****, is: "In the opinion of people in the BDSM community who actually know what they are talking about, ..."

Wow. And who would these people be? The "real" perverts or the "psychos" or are there more definitions that I need to familiarize myself with?

" .... will be a travesty of justice on a similar order of magnitude as Lorena Bobbitt going scot free for what she did...."

There are people in this world who would say that John Bobbitt got exactly what he was asking for.....